{"id":6769,"date":"2020-05-15T07:39:00","date_gmt":"2020-05-15T04:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/anxietatea-sau-despre-cum-totul-e-doar-in-capul-tau\/"},"modified":"2024-12-21T23:53:52","modified_gmt":"2024-12-21T21:53:52","slug":"anxietatea-sau-despre-cum-totul-e-doar-in-capul-tau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/en\/mental-health-stories\/anxietatea-sau-despre-cum-totul-e-doar-in-capul-tau\/","title":{"rendered":"Anxiety &#8211; or how it is all just &#8220;in your head&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Anxiety and I go way back. Probably since childhood. I cannot remember a time when it was not there in one form or another. Sure, some might say, anxiety is something we all face. It is a normal response to stress.<\/p>\n\n<p>Nothing could be truer.<\/p>\n\n<p>However, what do you do when your mind has this answer for almost everything that happens to you and even for the things that do not happen (those &#8220;ifs&#8221; or &#8220;maybes&#8221; that keep running through your mind in an endless horde of thoughts)? You learn to live with it. You learn to live together.<\/p>\n\n<p>There is also the option of therapy, which I encourage, but I haven&#8217;t had the courage to go to a psychologist. A deeply negative experience distanced me from this option and still keeps me away from any practice. I promised myself that I would come back, if and when I found someone right for me, but that&#8217;s another story, with other entanglements.<\/p>\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The current situation makes those with anxiety disorders (already extremely stressed by everyday life) experience what is happening more intensely.<\/h4>\n\n<p>A few mornings ago I woke up suddenly, straight into an anxiety attack. My mind was convinced that I was breathing heavily lying on my back. I felt it with every breath. I stood still for a few minutes trying to check over and over if it was true. It seemed to be. But later, when my mind was occupied with the tasks at work, I realized that it was just an anxiety attack. It wasn&#8217;t the first and it certainly won&#8217;t be the last. An episode from a year or so ago comes to mind when, on a similar note, I thought I was breathing heavily. The sensation continued for almost half a day until I managed to calm down.<\/p>\n\n<p>However, anxiety disorder is not strictly about reality and what happens to you, but what might happen to you. It is characterized by a persistent worry that is not tied to a particular circumstance. In other words, you worry almost all the time and think over and over again about things that others would consider too small to be important.<\/p>\n\n<p>An example of this, which I face almost every day: shopping. Even though I know for sure that at that moment I have the money I need, either cash or card, I worry until I get to pay. I check my wallet over and over again trying to make sure, even though I know I have money, I know it&#8217;s okay. This is a somewhat familiar situation that I try to manage although it doesn&#8217;t always work out. Unfortunately, there are also times when you can&#8217;t anticipate anxiety.<\/p>\n\n<p>Often social situations&#8230; give me a lot of trouble. Long after a discussion is over, I sit and go back over what I said, what others said, what I could have said differently or what I didn&#8217;t say at all. Sometimes I can waste hours worrying about something I said that I&#8217;m sure the other participants in the discussion have forgotten. Or, if it&#8217;s not social situations, then it&#8217;s a wandering thought about an illness or a family member and then my mind goes crazy again.<\/p>\n\n<figure class=\"gb-block-image gb-block-image-d8491b4d\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" class=\"gb-image gb-image-d8491b4d\" src=\"https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7.jpeg\" alt=\"persoan\u0103 cu o umbr\u0103 reprezent\u00e2nd anxietatea, \u00een fa\u021ba unui specialist \" title=\"image-asset (7)\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7.jpeg 1920w, https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7-300x169.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7-1024x576.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7-768x432.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7-1536x864.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/mentalhealthforromania.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/image-asset-7-1600x900.jpeg 1600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><figcaption class=\"gb-headline gb-headline-6dc0be99 gb-headline-text gb-headline-image-caption\">\u00a9 Fusion<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n<p>I had another episode recently, right at work. I had just come out of a meeting where I had to speak in English, a language I am almost native in. Well, due to anxiety raised to alarming heights, that day it seemed to me that I had done a horrible job, and long afterwards I sat and thought obsessively about how badly I had spoken and how I had misspoken, how I didn&#8217;t know some word or didn&#8217;t know a verb tense, although absolutely no one had noticed, and even if they had, they had not given it any importance.<\/p>\n\n<p>And the examples could go on and on, but I think it&#8217;s enough to outline even just a moment with anxiety.<\/p>\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I see anxiety as a spiral of thoughts that wraps itself around you and squeezes you tighter and tighter until you can barely breathe.<\/h4>\n\n<p>Most of the time, it turns you against yourself, against your friends, because you live in constant fear, and that fear doesn&#8217;t even have a real basis. That&#8217;s why you&#8217;ll often hear the line &#8220;it&#8217;s all in your head&#8221; if you try to explain it to someone. Sure, it&#8217;s heard in connection with many mental disorders because, isn&#8217;t it true, &#8220;if you can&#8217;t see it, it doesn&#8217;t exist&#8221;!<\/p>\n\n<p>Nothing could be further from the truth, but you don&#8217;t have to convince anyone that what you&#8217;re feeling and what&#8217;s happening to you is real. What you can do is seek profesional help and get a psychiatric diagnosis. It&#8217;s good to know exactly what&#8217;s going on in our brain so we can understand it, so we can understand <em>ourselves<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n<p>Although I haven&#8217;t received a diagnosis yet, and only have a hunch (my own and my former psychologist&#8217;s), I plan to go back to therapy at the first opportunity when I find a therapist who can give me the necessary confidence, because everything is shaky now.<\/p>\n\n<p>I am grateful, however, to be able to talk about my experience here, to be able to talk about what it&#8217;s like to live with an anxiety disorder and how it can affect your life down to the smallest detail.<\/p>\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I wish that in the near future going to the psychologist will not be so stigmatized and that we can talk about it more openly without attracting all kinds of stares.<\/h4>\n\n<p>Because mental health is just as (or maybe even more!) important as physical health, although it is often ignored or treated superficially by many of us.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Anxiety and I go way back. 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